Take the time to watch the embedded 30 minutes video clip — it’s worth the time spend, promised.
«[…] one would think that this is what’s going on — this is not what’s going on. This is what’s going on on Twitter — maybe. […] We have a great conversation happening on Twitter about Twitter. There is something going on, but it’s not this. […]
[…] If they don’t understand what the technologies they’re using are for, it’s really hard to use them effectively. […]
[…] What is Facebook for? […] We all know Facebook is not here to help kids make friends, Facebook is here to try to figure out how to monetize relationships, […] how to put brands between social relationships and all that. […] Kids who are using Facebook to make friends are not really using a tool that’s devised to help them make friends and thus they’ll get a different result, than actual making friends, they’ll get the making of «likes» or shared «likes» or something else. […]»
— Douglas Rushkoff
«[…] It’s so very very simple that it breaks their minds. Or they think it’s communist to ask „what value is created?“ Or that I’m being facetious since we’re all supposed to know that no value is actually created. […]»
— Douglas Rushkoff, comment on «Meme Hacking, Douglas Rushkoff Drops a Memetic Bomb on PivotCon 2010»
[«Memetic» → Wikipedia]
«It is a bit of a joke in our family that I use FB to ‘stalk’ my young adult children (19 -22). And my youngest and I had a great exchange the other month. He posted something (as a joke) that I found a bit offensive … so I left a little short comment along the lines of … “I do not think this appropriate …” (yes that is the ‘mother tone’ you hear). It is what happened next that really impressed me and gave me a real AHA moment.
He ‘inboxed’ me (so it was private) .. and said this was his space and I should really respect that. He said he found my comment on his comment ‘inappropriate’ not only for the tone but also for the fact that I had posted it on his site (ie all his friends could see it). He then went on to say (along the lines of ..) that while he likes me being his friend on FB and enjoys our on-line interactions .. if I can not respect / accept his space, opinions and jokes (and if I DO have a problem – then deal with it privately) .. – then he suggested either A) I ‘unfriend him’ (so you don’t have t see it Mum!) .. or B) if I do it again he will block me (LOL).
What impressed me the most .. was his choice of reply (ie private .. not ‘ridiculing me in public) and the incredibly respectful but honest and assertive way he (1) put his case forward … (2) said what he wanted from me … (3) and then gave me an alterative option .. and (4) finished off with a final possible consequence.
I sat back, had a laugh, went to his FB page and removed my comment. I then sent him a reply email thanking him for the way he handled this & acknowledged all of his points .. and thought.. I am so proud of my son.
I am sharing this story here because it is an example of the way on line interactions with our (adult) children can actually enhance our relationship .. (I think) .. But I also do acknowledge it is different with younger children and I guess parents do have more of stronger role in that situation.»
— Kathleenz, Comment on: «Facebook & helicopter parenting»
«[…] Mikalah uses Facebook but when she goes to log out, she deactivates her Facebook account. She knows that this doesn’t delete the account – that’s the point. She knows that when she logs back in, she’ll be able to reactivate the account and have all of her friend connections back. But when she’s not logged in, no one can post messages on her wall or send her messages privately or browse her content. But when she’s logged in, they can do all of that. And she can delete anything that she doesn’t like. Michael Ducker calls this practice “super-logoff” when he noticed a group of gay male adults doing the exact same thing. […]»
— Danah Boyd, «Risk Reduction Strategies on Facebook»
«[…] Facebook has told me I have too many friends and fan pages. […] My reward for contributing significantly to Facebook’s content and networks is that I can never add another friend or fan another page (although anyone can add me as a friend). […]»
— Jeffrey Zeldman, «Friend limit reached»
«[…] as a designer, it bothers me, not only because badly designed things bother designers, but because badly designed things in a highly successful product spur a lust for imitation. I don’t want our clients to think “like” works. I don’t want them desiring similarly broken functionality on sites we design for them. I don’t want them thinking users don’t need tools that work, simply because millions of users don’t complain about broken tools on Facebook. Tools like like and its sad little pop-up.
Me no like.»
— Jeffrey Zeldman, «Managing Facebook Like. Or Not.»
ZUCK: yea so if you ever need info about anyone at harvard
ZUCK: just ask
ZUCK: i have over 4000 emails, pictures, addresses, sns
FRIEND: what!? how’d you manage that one?
ZUCK: people just submitted it
ZUCK: i don’t know why
ZUCK: they “trust me”
ZUCK: dumb fucks
IM excerpt from the early years; → taken from «The Face Of Facebook — Mark Zuckerberg opens up», a portrait of Mark Zuckerberg by Jose Antonio Vargas, The New Yorker 2010/09/20)
i still don’t know if i gonna stay there but meanwhile some more words to consider …
[…] facebook has gone rogue, drunk on founder mark zuckerberg’s dreams of world domination. it’s time the rest of the web ecosystem recognizes this and works to replace it with something open and distributed. […]
– ryan singel (wired epicenter)
[…] facebook hasn’t always managed its users’ data well. in the beginning, it restricted the visibility of a user’s personal information to just their friends and their «network» (college or school). over the past couple of years, the default privacy settings for a facebook user’s personal information have become more and more permissive […]
– Matt McKeon
[…] we track everything. every photo you view, every person you’re tagged with, every wall-post you make, and so forth. […]
– anonymous facebook employee
[…] deactivating your facebook account is pretty much worthless. it’s facebook’s deceptive and very smart practice of luring you into a false sense of security by making you think you’ve removed your account, personal data and license to your ip (intellectual property) from the service when actually you haven’t. […]
i don’t know if i gonna stay there but meanwhile some words to consider …
«[…] facebook users would be better off and better able to express themselves if they could choose whether or not to link their interests and activities to a community, if they decide to list them.»
— kurt opsahl, eff
«[…] its claws for pulling in outside content are now razor-sharp. it’s going to be very hard for anyone to escape. […]»
— mg siegler, techcrunch
«[…] long story even longer, this is another step in the direction of evil empire for a site that was built upon the concept of privacy. i think it is high time those of us who care about our privacy to find another place to share our experiences, photos, etc with each other. […]»
— chris j. davis
pros and cons (in german)
[…] someday, maybe a decade from now, some new technology will rise and allow other companies to threaten facebook. but until then there is little to stop them. their march to dominance has just begun.
— michael arrington
… counted so far 76
[…] sie bieten glasperlen gegen echte perlen. sie verhalten sich wie conquistadoren gegenüber den eingeborenen der neuen welt, des neuen web. wie dealer zu junkies. kostenloses anfixen. ich halte facebook für eine bedrohung gegenüber den communities und des neuen web. twitter ist ein waisenknabe dagegen. […]
— cem basman
[…] die machen nicht sich dran – die haben das web bereits erobert! […]
[…] your friends’ faces will show up on websites where they’ve clicked the “like” button. think about that. you’re on joe’s website. you see your wife’s, girlfriend’s, and minister’s faces smiling at you from joe’s website. […]
— jeffrey zeldman
[…] i am not a facebook fan, but this definitely made me look. […]
— swissmiss (about likebutton.me)